The first thing to do is set your sights on a goal or examine your existing goal(s). Goals that are always at the top of my list are to work out more or smarter, eat cleaner and get more business. The three tweaks below are something I work on everyday. Experts say they will help you blow past your mental roadblocks, so you can make strides faster and easier.
3 Cognitive Tweaks You Can Do
Assume You’ll Get a Yes
Going into a situation with hesitation makes you think and act defensively, and that drowns your confidence. Say you want to ask your manager for a raise. If you enter his/her office already worried that they’ll turn you down, you’ll be focused on how to cope or change their mind rather than on the impulses that made you think you deserve the raise in the first place.
Break the Habit:
Right before a potentially stressful situation, tell yourself that everything will work out the way you want it to-you’ll get your yes or perhaps some other unforeseen perk. This confidence boost short-circuits the negativity, helping you perform better and shape the conversation to work for you.
Rewrite Your Story
To uncover hidden barriers to success, start by jotting down a desired, but so far unfulfilled goal and what’s holding you up. For example, “I want to go to the gym before work every day, but I get to bed too late and when morning comes I’m to exhausted to get out of bed.”
Break the Habit
A day later, try to jot down the goal and the roadblock again but begin the phrase with “The truth is…” Doing so will help you confront the reality of what’s driving your behavior and make you take responsibility for the real roadblock.
We often ignore our most visceral reactions, telling ourselves they’re too extreme to be feasible. After watching the Boston Marathon, you might think, I want to run this next year! But then you immediately start backtracking: I can barely finish a 5K, and I’d need to start training for a qualifying marathon soon, so probably not. This means you miss out on what could be a fulfilling opportunity.
Break the Habit
Instead, visualize what would happen if you did decide to run, ignoring those ‘buts’ for a bit. This get you in the habit of respecting your core instincts. Remember, you can worry about logistics later, once you decide you’re truly game.
Stop Self Doubt
We all have it – self doubt. To stop self doubt tell yourself that everything will work out in your favor, take responsibility for the roadblocks by saying the “truth is…” and think big and go for it.
Source: Amanda MacMillan